By Wendy Rice, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist
It is with some trepidation that I must confess that not only have I read all three 50 Shades books, but last week I also bravely took myself to see the movie.
And, while many people have scoffed at the acting, the excessively explicit sexual content and lack of literary sophistication, I was drawn to both the books and the movie on several different levels.
The line between role-playing and abuse in a relationship can often be hard to spot. Our psychologists are ready to help you or a loved one sort these things out.
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How do you measure "Smart"?
By Wendy Rice, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist
I recently read the book “Mindset” by psychologist, Carol Dweck. What a wonderful discovery!
Dr. Dweck’s message is that our mindset can help or hinder us to a significant degree; more than we may have even imagined. Her book is based on more than 20 years of research that demonstrates the difference between having a fixed or closed mindset and an open or growth mindset.
She explains that a fixed mindset is one where you believe that qualities such as intelligence and personality are set as is and cannot be changed. Whereas, a growth mindset, is one...
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What To Do If “The Season” Is Getting You Down
By Wendy Rice, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist
Are you just not in the holly jolly spirit this December?
If so, or if you know of someone who needs a bit of support, you’ve come to the right blog. We are here to help!
If you are down about the season, it can be helpful to write down or at least really think about the things that are bothering you. It is often best to do it in a 2-column type format so that you can “respond” to each negative thought with something more neutral, realistic, or even positive. This is part of what...
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Loosening the Ties: Letting Your Kids "Go" When It’s Time for College
By Megan Sutsko, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist
There are significant moments in a child’s development that elicit both joy and anxiety for parents. These moments remind us of the unstoppable truth that, from the instant a child is brought into the world, they are moving away from their parents and towards independence; first steps, first day of school, graduations, learning to drive, moving out for college, and of course, getting married and one day having children of their own.
In my work with teens, young adults, and families, it has become apparent that navigating the college departure with wisdom and bravery is crucial...
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What Kind of Life Do You Want?
By Wendy Rice, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist
As a newly-confessed Oprah fan, I want to share with you some of the life lessons I learned from my October weekend with Oprah and her Trailblazers in Miami. The weekend was entitled Oprah’s “The Life You Want” Weekend.
The program included Friday evening with Oprah alone on stage to set the proverbial stage, and then Oprah back on Saturday along with Deepak Chopra (pioneer of mind-body medicine), Elizabeth Gilbert (of Eat, Love, Pray fame), Rob Bell (Author and Pastor) and Iyanla Vanzant (star of Iyanla: Fix My Life on OWN Network).
While onstage, Oprah encouraged us...
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Candy, Costumes and Caution – Managing the impact of Sugar, Halloween and Safety
By Wendy Rice, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist
Halloween. Ahhhh. A smile just takes over my face as I say the word.
I remember walking around Great Neck, New York with my friend Amy and sometimes other kids as well, filling up my plastic pumpkin and then coming home to sort through my loot. Halloween is the time of year when I discovered that Clark Bars, Bit-O-Honey and what used to be called $100,000 Bars (now called 100 Grand Bar) were oh so delicious.
And the costumes? Childhood memories of the elephant costume made out of a hooded gray sweat suit (stuffed trunk and all),...
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How Parents Can Be the Ultimate Spoilsports
By Wendy Rice, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist
The Psychological wins and losses in competitive sports are pressure enough. But, are you as a parent supporting your child or transferring your desires onto them causing them to feel stress and disappointment?
Are you the dad who is insulting the ref who made a bad call?
Are you the mom who wants to tell your son’s coach a thing or two after the game about either over or underplaying your child?
Maybe you are the horse show parent who coaches from outside the ring, interfering with what your child’s trainer is telling her to do.
And, let’s hope...
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Do Today’s Children Need a Media Diet?
By Wendy Rice, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist
How much is too much?
According to the Kaiser Family Foundation, today's children spend more than 7.5 hours a day with media. That's more than many of them spend in school and it leads me to wonder...
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The World is a Scary Place
By Wendy Rice, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist
How would you feel about flying to Africa with the uncontained Ebola virus spreading throughout the continent?
Or, how would you feel about flying internationally on the heels of the one plane completely disappearing mid-flight and another one being shot down?
I can tell you that these are both questions I have pondered extensively over the past few weeks because I am about to fly to Johannesburg before heading out on a 9-day safari in Botswana and then a few days in Victoria Falls. I have been thinking about the risks of going to a country...
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