Consider the following story as it relates to this week’s topic: I was doing a podcast a few weeks ago with 2 co-hosts. I asked if we could put our cameras on so we could see each other while we talked. They said they’d never done their interviews with cameras on but were game to try. Afterward, both hosts commented about how much less interrupting they did because they could see each other’s faces. What they didn’t know was that having their cameras on was a form of an accommodation for me. I have a tendency to interrupt on the phone when I can’t see body language and facial expressions, and in person when I’m excited, nervous or fear forgetting what I’m thinking. Having the visual makes it a bit easier and even though the co-hosts don’t have ADHD brains, they reported it helped them too.
Have you ever noticed that you or someone you love tends to interrupt in conversation? It might feel frustrating or even disrespectful at times, but for many people with ADHD, interrupting isn’t about rudeness. It’s about how their brain works.
At Rice Psychology Group, we often hear from clients who feel embarrassed or guilty about interrupting. They don’t want to come across as dismissive, but their ADHD impulsivity makes it difficult to hold back. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
Why Interrupting Happens with ADHD
Interrupting usually stems from a combination of impulsivity, hyperfocus, and working memory challenges. Here are a few common reasons:
- Fear of forgetting. A thought pops up, and if it’s not shared immediately, it might be gone forever.
- Misreading timing. Someone with ADHD may think the speaker has finished when they haven’t.
- Feeling urgent. To the ADHD brain, the thought feels pressing, even if others don’t see it that way.
- Excitement and engagement. Ironically, interruptions often happen because the person is deeply interested in the conversation, not because they aren’t listening.
The Impact on Relationships
Even when the intention is positive, interrupting can make others feel unheard or disrespected. Over time, it may lead to tension in friendships, family dynamics, or workplace communication.
That’s why raising awareness both for the individual with ADHD and for those around them is so important.
Three Tips to Help Manage Interrupting
If you or your child struggle with interrupting, here are a few practical strategies to try:
- Build awareness. Ask a trusted friend or family member to gently point out when you interrupt. Becoming more conscious of the behavior is the first step.
- Pause before speaking. Practice silently counting to three before sharing your thought. This gives others time to finish and creates space for reflection.
- Write it down. Keeping a small notebook or note app handy can be a game-changer. Jot down your thought so it doesn’t get lost, and share it when the timing is better.
The Bottom Line
Interrupting doesn’t mean someone is rude, careless, or not listening. More often, it means they’re engaged and excited — but their ADHD brain makes waiting difficult. With awareness, strategies, and compassion (both for self and others), it’s possible to improve communication and strengthen relationships. At Rice Psychology Group, we understand how ADHD can impact daily life — from school to work to relationships. If you or a loved one are struggling with communication challenges, we’re here to help. Book your appointment to speak with one of our licensed psychologists today.
